“Was that an oops baby?”

“When are you going to get married?”

“Do your kids have the same father?”

Just a few of the questions that have been asked by seemingly friendly people, not realizing that life is complicated and your simple question could come across as well, RUDE.

Most of us are just making conversation when we ask things like, “so when are you due?” without thinking.  Or maybe we are trying to find common ground.  For example, maybe you yourself had an unplanned baby and you assume that someone else did too… but the reality might be that they struggled for years to have that baby.

Maybe you’re dying to get married, but you’re struggling through some issues with your partner.  It doesn’t feel great to be asked that question unless you have an answer.

Questions about pregnancy or babies can be dicey. We don’t always know who is struggling with fertility.  And of course, if you don’t know for sure if someone’s pregnant – DON’T ASK!  (Don’t worry, we’ll let you know!)

You should never be afraid to start a conversation, but taking a moment to think about your question and just who you’re asking might be a good idea.